You Are The #Squad You Keep: Five friends you don’t need in your circle
Whether we like to believe it or not, our friends are a reflection of the qualities we possess or admire. If this weren’t true, why would they be in our circles to begin with? While it’s great to have friends around for all of the big moments in life, it’s just as important to know when it’s time to purge particular people from your circle in order for you to grow.
Throughout my teenage years I had plenty of “friends,” but I realized as I got older and more focused on my goals, those group of friends faded away quickly with each passing year. However, when I look back I don’t see it as a loss. It was more of a necessary evil that was difficult, yet refreshing. Not sure who you need to purge from your life? Here’s a look at five types of people you should steer clear of, or at least love from a distance as I like to say.
The Undercover Hater
No one ever thinks of themselves as a hater, but we all know one when we see them. If the bulk of your conversations with friends consists of picking a part the flaws of others, gossiping, or subtly putting people down, then guess what? You probably sound like a hater. Being around people that constantly talk negatively about others only encourages you to do the same, and nothing productive comes out of sitting around hating on the next person’s hustle.
The Flexer
This friend strictly does things for the gratification of likes on social media and/or the approval of others. For them, it’s more about how their life looks, rather than the actual progress they’re making. Although this person isn’t a deal breaker when it comes to your group of friends, they could get you caught up in the superficial things that come with success. Pursuing something for the approval of others will almost always leave you miserable.
Comfort Zone Friends
How do you expect to achieve your goals if you don’t get uncomfortable from time to time? If your friends are telling you that you shouldn’t do something because it’s difficult or different, then chances are those aren’t the friends you should share you dreams and goals with. When you’re pursuing a career or business that requires you to take a leap of faith, you need all the support you can get. Not someone to constantly remind you of how hard the journey will be.
The Big Talker
This is the friend that talks a really good game! Constantly talking about how much money they want to make, the job they wish they had, and big plans that are on the way. While there’s nothing wrong with dreaming big, you should want to be around someone that encourages action! Surround yourself with people who don’t just talk the talk, but can walk the walk too.
Negative Nancy
Stay away from Negative Nancys at all costs! Allowing a person into your circle that focuses on the negatives of every situation will wear you down. Not to mention, may even push you into thinking about all of the negative outcomes associated with pursuing your dreams or starting that business you always wanted. By keeping this person around, you’ll only hold yourself back from achieving your goals.
Separating yourself from particular friends isn’t an easy task, but remember, sometimes less is more. Have you ever had to cut ties with toxic friends? Share your experience below!
